This Christmas, we were asked to help with an 8 year old boy over the Christmas period. At first, we were reluctant to agree to this as we had just finished a placement and were in the middle of re-decorating the room. However, after some serious discussions with our Fostering team and some soul searching we agreed to have him for Christmas.
Things have been hard, this little lad is eight years old (Chronologically), however developmentally he is still around four years old. This causes real problems with his emotional development, dealing with anger, social interaction and understanding boundaries and rules. It has been a roller coaster of a Christmas, lots of problems to deal with and many tantrums! That said, he has had a loving and safe environment to spend his Christmas and lots to keep him occupied.
One of the most memorable moments for me was to see him opening his gifts on Christmas Morning. He was so very excited! He had asked Santa for some Hot Wheels and a Mousetrap (the game), and this along with a kiddie zoom camera were all wrapped up ready for him to open.
It has pulled at our heart strings to see how frustrated and angry he gets. He just cannot express himself like a child without learning and development difficulties can do. This global delay is the result of severe neglect, and all within the first eight years of his life. It is so sad to realise the amount of kids that are similar to him and a great deal more that are worse!
My own Son has been fantastic with him, helping him to play safely and being patient with him. We have all learnt so much from this little man.
We are just so pleased we have been able to give him a good Christmas.
Happy Christmas to you all!