Thursday, 30 April 2009
It struck me that I have been "disabled" for so long now that I had to think very hard to try and find the words that could explain the difficulties I have, not because I am not experiencing any difficulties, but because it is just normal everyday life to me now.
How did I become Injured?
Firstly, for those that do not know, at the sprightly age of 16 I was a passenger in a Mini that was involved in an accident, it hit an old railway bridge in Clifton-upon-dunsmore..
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Just about where you see the Rugby Road sign in yellow is where the bridge is, we hit that bridge on the passenger side of the Mini at a reasonable rate of speed.
That was the moment that I believe I lost my potential future, not that I will ever really know if my disability has impeded my ability's to make more of myself than what I have done in my life so far. What is evident to me is that my life since that evening on that bridge has been different to what I had imagined or envisaged for myself.
On the following Monday after the accident I was booked in to have an interview(can not even remember where it was), I guess i still wonder to this day how my life would of panned out if that bridge had not jumped out in front of us! :)
What happened to me?
At the scene of the accident I was dragged out of the wreck that used to be a Mini(as the car was smoking heavily and there was a real danger of being trapped in a mangled car whilst it caught fire) and as my legs hit the floor the broken bones shattered and came through my skin. My left leg was broken in more places than easy jet offer on their European flights! My left side was a mess, I remember laying on the ground with residents fetching blankets and things to stem the blood and thinking what are all these people doing, I am ok, why are they fussing so much? I realised the extent of my injuries when i tensed my leg muscles to try and get up and witnessed the lower part of my leg(below the knee) start to spin round! By that time the pain was starting to hit me, and before the ambulance had arrived I had woken the whole of Clifton village!
I had broken my left Tibia & Fibia in multiple places and required urgent surgery to try and minimise the damage and risk of infection to the exposed bones.
How does this all affect me know?
Now, I take daily pain killers to numb the constant and annoying pain, they are called Tramadol and on a good day I only need to take the required dose to be able to function adequately. However on bad days, I need to up the dose and then I have trouble stringing a sentence together let alone getting on with the day...
Trouble with taking drugs on a daily basis is that you end up believing that this "High" feeling is normal and how you should be feeling! its not of course and I realise that, but there is not a great deal I can do about it as its is a lot better than the constant pain.
I am about to go in for my 4th operation on my leg quite soon(date not set) and I believe it will not be the last. This operation is quite intrusive as they are going to re-break my leg and rotate it slightly as it has repaired itself at the wrong angle and this is causing me to experience sever back pains alongside crippling leg pains & cramps.
What is the diagnosis for the future?
The Consultant is reserving his judgement till after this next operation, although he has said that he does not believe I will be playing footy with my Son any time soon....
All in all, I am not too fussed with this as it is all normal for me and therefore I do not believe I am any better or worse of than the next man - In fact i have everything I could ever wish for. A beautiful and intelligent wife who is the most precious friend and soul mate I could wish for, and to make me smile daily I have my lovely little boy, he is an inspiration to me everyday(even on his bad days) and I thank what ever force is in control of this tiny planet for blessing me with such a great family...
So there you have it, this is my "Disability"........ What's yours?? :)
Wednesday, 29 April 2009
Firstly, I would like to say that I have got my Non Work head on and therefore this blog entry is impartial...
This week the company I work for OpusVL have delivered the beta version of Freevo which is a free virtual office software. I am really impressed with this site so far, its functionality and feel are very modern and smooth to use. I went on the site earlier and decided to test the fax to email facility, it was very quick and easy to set up. I had completed the set-up and received a test fax that I had sent within 10 minutes!
There are lots of reasons to use Freevo, not just for business start-ups to save time and money. Have a look at the WhyFreeVo section for more information.
My boss has been inspired by what he calls a "fantastic and sustainable idea", as I have. I am looking for feedback on this site, its functionality and the overall concept so please take a look at it, use it and give me some comments to help me improve it for the client....
When I first twittered this I had a call from a friend who said to me that nothing is really free and "where was the catch!". I assured him that it really was a FREE service and completely "catch" free. No tie ins, contracts nothing... Just use it...
The client believes that the products he is offering should be accessible, sustainable and completely Free! - Great concept I say, and it works so well(well i think so)....
So, there has never been a better time to take advantage of generosity, please please go and use this service and come back to me with your thoughts/comments etc...
I appreciate your input...
Tuesday, 28 April 2009
On Sunday evening, whilst my wife was entertaining Mr Cullen we (Kerecsen & I)decided we would like to have a walk. Know I am not a great walker due to my disability, however we got in the car and headed out into the wilderness...
About 10 minutes later we stopped the car at a spot i had previously visited many years ago in my youth. (Me, Ruth, Pete and Julie had been out for a drive that day and had stopped in this spot to Talk!!"!!) Anyway, that is a story for another day and maybe another blog!
Kerecsen and I headed off slowly down the track admiring the beautiful countryside and talking generally about flowers and the smell of Cow Poo!(It is always interesting the subjects you cover whilst talking with a child!) After about the third rest(for me) in five minutes Kerecsen was getting a little annoyed with the constant stop/start so i told him to have a run through the yellow rapeseed fields. He loved this idea and promptly chose a track through the bright yellow glow and took off...
Although in pain, I thoroughly enjoyed it. The calm, peaceful fields made me realise how incredibly lucky I am to be able to experience these sights and sounds. I hope that after my next operation I may be able to do more of this with my family..
Kerecsen is the type of boy who, given a choice would prefer to walk and experience the outdoors than be stuck in a fairground. I admire this in him, he is a beautiful boy, intelligent, thoughtful, kind and considerate of your feelings. On a bad day he is a typical boy, and I would not change him for the world.
As you can see, I also managed to take some pictures whilst out. I hope they bring a smile you your day, as much as they have mine....
With the media all hyped up about the swine flu and helping to creating panic amongst us I thought it was time to sieve through the noise and find out what we should be aware of...
So what is Swine Flu - swine flu (an acute and highly contagious respiratory disease of swine caused by the orthomyxovirus thought to be the same virus that caused the 1918 influenza pandemic). The influenza pandemic of 1918-1919 killed somewhere between 20 and 40 million people. It has been cited as the most devastating epidemic in recorded world history
Is this a serious threat? - The world health organisation has raised its threat level to Level 4, Dr Keiji Fukuda, WHO Assistant Director-General for Health and Security and Environment, said despite the raised level, a pandemic was not "inevitable". A pandemic is declared at level six. Since the alerts were introduced in 2005 it has never been higher than level three.
So to be honest, yes it is a serious outbreak and has the ability to become very dangerous indeed.
Where did this come from? - This particular strain of Swine Flu has originated from Mexico where there were 1,455 probable cases and 149 confirmed deaths so far.
How far has it spread? - Cases have been confirmed in Spain, Canada, and several states in the USA. More are suspected in New Zealand, Israel and Colombia. Four people in the Irish Republic were being tested for the virus.
There are two British patients, a couple from the Falkirk area of Scotland, who returned from holiday last Tuesday and on Saturday developed symptoms and contacted doctors. They are being kept in isolation at a hospital in Airdrie. They are being treated with anti-viral drugs and are said to be ''recovering well''.
Is it always Fatal? - No, so far every case outside of Mexico has been successfully treated and the patient has made a full recovery. The reason for the apparent fatal strain in Mexico is being identified.
Overall, this bug is a nasty little fella and we should all be cautious of it. There is definitely no need to panic, but in my opinion it will most probably get worse before it gets better. The Government in the UK have enough drugs to treat about 33 million people should the bug get to a stage where it infects the population, in that case, schools, theatre and social areas would be closed to contain the virus.
You can find more information on the virus on the World Health organization web site.
Friday, 24 April 2009
I do not think we have a great deal planned this weekend as you can guarantee that as soon as my working week is over the rain will start and will not stop until Monday morning when i am getting ready for work again.
It is so disheartening when you have a weekend to spend with the family and the weather is bloody horrendous!
I look forward to spending some time in the sun now, there was a time that i just could not stand to be out in it. I remember not too long ago calling a friend of ours a sloth because she spent her days on a sun lounger sipping cold drinks from a straw and baking in the sun! When we used to visit her, i would be the first one under the umbrella to get out of the sun. These days, (because i spend my days in an office) i love to be in the sun. Trouble is the sun does not like me!
So some interesting(Not) facts for a Friday:
- Rubber bands last longer when refrigerated
- Peanuts are one of the ingredients of dynamite
- There are more chickens than people in the world
- Almonds are a member of the peach family
- There are only four words in the English language which end in “dous”: tremendous, horrendous, stupendous, and hazardous.
- Al Capone’s card said he was a used furniture dealer
- An ostrich’s eye is bigger than its brain.
- A goldfish has a memory span of three seconds
- The name for OZ in the “Wizard of OZ” was thought up when the creator, Frank Baum, looked at his filing cabinet and saw A-N, and O-Z, hence “OZ”
- A cat has 32 muscles in each ear
- Winston Churchill was born in a ladies room during a dance
So there we have it, you will enjoy your day much better now that you have these facts!
Wednesday, 22 April 2009
The party he is attending is for his "Girlfriend", he is constantly around her at nursery and when they go out together they never leave each others side. It really is so sweet. It amazes me how protective of her he is, on one occasion they attended a friends birthday party together and she came up to him quite upset and his response was to ask who had hurt her as he was going to "go have a talk with them!"
It seems like only yesterday that he was born....
How things change so quickly...
The other day whilst walking in the town(Smile Day) i felt a great deal
Image by Kaptain Krispy Kreme via Flickrof confidence in the high street, an alive feeling that i had not seen or felt for some time. It may of been due to the beautiful day that we were experiencing but even so, whatever the reason behind it, it made a difference.
The current financial crisis in the UK and abroad has affected me, with April upon us it was time for the Tax Credits to issue the new years award. This year was particularly hard for me and my family as the award is based on the last years income(2007-2008) and during that time i was unable to work for the majority of those months. I started full time again in February 2008 so the award only took into account the salary of March & April of that year. The amount we lost per week was huge and will have a direct affect on our spending habits and decisions in the future.
It is apparent to me that the majority of people who have not had any direct affect from the financial situation(yet) probably have not noticed a great deal of difference to their lives and/or spending behaviour. These people still have confidence as it has not been knocked
Image by hitthatswitch via Flickror damaged by the loss or reduction of an income. The more people we have in the UK like this the quicker we can start to recover from this "Recession"
George(our Rabbit) has been to the vets and been diagnosed with Cheyletiellosis which is a mild dermatitis caused by mites of the genus Cheyletiella. It is also known as walking dandruff due to skin scales being carried by the mites. Cheyletiella live on the skin surface of dogs, cats, rabbits, and humans.
That's the info stuff out the way!
Anyway the vet has given us some tubes of fluid to administer behind his neck every 2-3 weeks. This should solve the problem.
What she did not tell us was that it is highly contagious and can be transferred to other animals in the house including humans!
AAaaargh - I suddenly feel all itchy.... lmao
Anyway, i will keep you updated...
Tuesday, 21 April 2009
The reason they contacted us(apart from to say hello)was to let me know about a new venture they have just started. They have converted their farmhouse into a B&B which is very reasonably priced and has excellent facilities. Ok yes i am biased, but i would not recommend anywhere that i did not believe was worth recommending...
Angie & Sammy are a mother and daughter team who have lived in France for over five years now, they will prove invaluable to people looking to purchase in France or as a great place to stop over whilst exploring the region.
I urge you to take a look at their new website which is HERE if you are planning a trip to the area. It will be worthwhile and very relaxing.
Some attractions in the area include:
- Marais Poitevin is an area of marshlands that is famous for its wildlife
- Mervent Forest
- Futuroscope theme park
- Tepacap Activity Centre
- Château des Enigmes
- Historical theme park in Puy du Fou
- and many many more
You could even bask in the extensive nude beach located just south of La Faute sur Mer on the Pointe d’Arcay. Fishing is also a popular sport in the Vendée, whether in the ocean or in one of the local rivers and lakes.
For some more ideas visit the Tourist site HERE
We will see what the vets have to say.
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Maybe it has a lot to do with this beautifull weather we have at the minute.
One thing is certain, confidence is contagious!
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Monday, 20 April 2009
The sun is shining and the air smells clean(well, it smells normal today because the school run started again so we have the normal amount of pollution in the air!)
How I would love to be at home now with Ruth & my Son, watching him bounce on the trampoline whilst i tinker in the garden.... Better still on a walk near some water(preferably water which does not have half a tesco trolley sticking out of it!)listening to the wildlife and talking nature to my son as we walk...
This is not the case though.... I am here...
sat in my office working.... :)
And before the MD starts to call me into the office asking me what I am doing updating my Blog instead of working, I will tell you that I have just sat down to a nice cup of coffee and 3 Ibuprofen! Dinner time!!! Lovely....
The reason for my nutritional meal is:
At the weekend i decided to try and mow the front lawn, this prooved to be a huge mistake as my leg(for those who are unaware my leg was pretty smashed up in an accident many years ago) decided that it had no intention of participating in this exercise and promptly started to misbehave which in turn put my lower back out(again!).
So, i actually do not look grumpy in the above picture - it is PAIN!....
I so want to be at Coombe Abbey Country Park right now...
I had a lovely half day there with Ruth & Kerecsen the other day and it is so much better when the sun is out. So relaxing.
I bumped into a couple who had just got Married and were having some photo's took in the grounds and I just could not resist taking a few shots. One of which is below, i was pleased with this one and i wanted to get in touch with the coulple to offer them a copy but unfortunaetly the Abbey could not disclose any details.
So if this is you then please email me............. lm AT leemartin DOT co DOT UK
Thursday, 16 April 2009
So what is new with me then....
I have been delving into the realms of Abstract art recently, you can see a couple of my creations below. I do not know what it is about this kind of image but it really makes me feel relaxed... So what the hell its cheaper than a therapist!
I personally think they make great wall hangings, what do you think?
I would love to get out and spend more time behind the lens, speaking with people and generally exploring my surroundings. I have made a vow to try and get more of this done and it is ongoing...
I had a bit of a rough Easter weekend as there was an issue with the payroll and no-one got paid until a day after the bank holiday - So no £££ to do anything!! :(
Still, never mind. We managed to get out in the local village for a while and get some stuff done round the house, and to look on the bright side it saved us money... :)
We have recently booked a holiday to Disneyland Paris, this is as much for my wife as my son i suspect! He is nearly 5 years old now so he will love it, and its a great excuse for some picture taking. I will be visiting Paris for a couple of days before the resort, has anyone got any ideas/attractions for me to visit?? I would really appreciate a heads up as this will be the first time for me in Paris...
On the 02nd April 2009 my friend @Documentally became a father. Christian is a social media guru who recorded this occasion on Audioboo.
You can hear his account of that moment HERE
As a father myself, I was inspired by this insight into this momentous occasion in Christian's life. It brought a lump to my throat and memories flooding back of that moment when i first met my son.
Here is my little bundle of joy about 5 minutes after he decided to appear...
How time flies by...
Look at the little monkey now...
He has grown into everything I wanted him to be.. (and so much more!)
There is no handbook on raising a child, no internet library of secrets. The only advice i would give is answer their questions honestly and directly, never lie to them, never be too busy to listen to their problems or gripes and lastly to enjoy every moment with them as they soon grow too old for cuddles and kisses..... :(
Lastly today I want to wish Christian and his family the very best for the future, and to thank him for allowing us access to his life.
Wednesday, 1 April 2009
Today is the anniversary of my Dad's death, he died on the 01st April 2007 aged 72
Since opening my eyes this morning, it has been different. Strange even.
I feel a little lost today, I have come into work and decided to get on with things as there is really no point in doing anything else. After all, he is dead.What can i do to make things better for myself, my Mum, my wife and son? Nothing really.
You will be programmed in your life to "get on with it" and not to dwell, this is the right way to be because to regret or dwell on things that can not be changed is a waste of your emotions and time. Today however, i think i may like to dwell, may want to sit and ponder, think, remember and try and forget all at once.
I have so much that I could write today, my head is full of conversation, but for that reason I will stop and have a listen to myself and work out what the day will hold for me....